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The Short List of Documents and Accounts to Locate
A blank, printable checklist of what families most often need in a crisis — and the rule that makes it safe: locating is not taking over. This is a template you fill in together; we never host private documents on this site, and neither should you.
Not legal or financial advice. This checklist is general and jurisdiction-agnostic. Wills, trusts, powers of attorney, and beneficiary designations should be reviewed by a lawyer in the parent's state. Medicaid, taxes, and benefits have their own rules — consult the relevant professionals and official programs.
The difference between locating and taking over
Locating means the family knows what exists and where it lives — the insurance company's name, the bank's name, which drawer the will is in. It needs no passwords, no account access, and no legal authority. Taking over means acting on accounts — paying bills, moving money, making decisions. That requires the parent's ongoing consent, and usually formal legal authority (durable power of attorney, etc.), not a family agreement. Do the first now. Do the second only through the proper channels, which a lawyer in the parent's state should set up.
The printable checklist
Fill this in together, one evening, no pressure. Leave "where it is" blank if unknown — the point is to find out.
| Category | What to note (no numbers needed here) | Where it is |
|---|---|---|
| Identity | Birth certificate, Social Security card, passport, driver's license | |
| Legal | Will, trust, durable power of attorney, healthcare proxy/living will | |
| Banking | Banks and credit unions used (checking, savings, CDs), safe deposit box | |
| Cards & debt | Credit cards (which issuers), loans, mortgage, any monthly debt | |
| Investments | Brokerage, retirement accounts (IRA, 401k), pensions, annuities | |
| Income & benefits | Social Security, pension, VA benefits, any annuities | |
| Insurance — health | Medicare card, Medigap/Advantage plan, employer retiree coverage, private insurance | |
| Insurance — other | Home, auto, long-term care, life insurance policies | |
| Property | Deed(s), car titles, property tax records | |
| Household | Utilities and providers (power, water, internet, phone), mortgage servicer | |
| Digital | Main email provider, phone carrier, key online accounts (not passwords — just which ones exist) | |
| Contacts | Primary care doctor, pharmacy, accountant, lawyer, financial advisor (if any) | |
| Burial/final arrangements | Any written preferences, prepaid plans, cemetery/cremation contracts | |
| Safe deposit box | Bank name, branch, whose names are on the box |
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Ground rules for filling it in
- No passwords on this list. Passwords are a separate, consent-based conversation — see Before you take over their passwords.
- No account numbers on this list. The family needs the names of institutions, not credentials. Numbers go in the parent's own records.
- The parent keeps the filled list (or their lawyer does). Copies for siblings only if the parent agrees.
- Update it yearly — accounts change, beneficiaries change, institutions merge.
What this is not
This is not an estate plan, and filling it in doesn't give anyone authority over anything. If the family hasn't discussed powers of attorney or a will, the checklist is the perfect opening line: "Let's find the documents first, then decide together what legal setup you want." The legal setup itself is a lawyer's job, and the cost is usually far less than the cost of not having it.
Related
- Passwords and accounts: the consent-based version
- Care & Safety — questions to ask before a crisis (coming)
- Siblings: who does what
Sources
- General locating-checklist practice (F1, reviewed 6–12 monthly); individual legal/financial arrangements require state-specific professional review.
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