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What happened today?

Choose the sentence that sounds like your family. Start there.

Mom clicked something weird

Check the message and know what to do first.

Check it now

Dad shouldn't be driving

Plan the next step without starting a fight.

Make a driving plan

Their technology is becoming my responsibility

Make simple steps they can keep beside the device.

Explain it simply

My siblings aren't helping

Make the invisible work visible and assignable.

Split the work

We have to clean out the house

Turn forty years of stuff into the first manageable pass.

Start the cleanout

I don't know what to buy

Choose by the problem, including when to buy nothing.

Find the right fix

I don't know where to start

Ask the few questions that reveal the next right step.

Start here

one thing to do with your parents this week

Make the callback rule a family habit.

Five minutes: tell your parent that banks, Medicare, utilities, and tech companies do not get verified through a surprise text or call. If a message creates pressure, hang up and call back using the number on the card, statement, or official website.

Best use: send this before the next suspicious message, not after.

This week's family script

"If someone calls or texts about money, an account, Medicare, your computer, or a verification code, pause. Do not use the number or link they gave you. Call me, or call the number on your card or statement."

Read the guide
Check a suspicious message Risk band, do-not-do list, safe verification path. Make steps they can use Six steps or fewer, printable and large-print friendly. Walk the house once Room-by-room checks and a punch list.

what’s timely for your parents

The seasons change the risks.

A short seasonal check catches problems early, and it’s usually free. This block updates itself as the year moves.

Check one thing each season.

the manual we all wished existed

Nobody hands you a manual for this.

Your parents are getting older, and somehow you're now the family tech support, scam detector, and document detective. This is the practical, judgment-free handbook for the job: one page at a time, starting today.

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the good parts, too

A note for hard days

You can't fix everything. That was never the job. The job is making things a little easier: one visit, one call, one "show me again" at a time.

Say it quieter on the hard days. More from the family section →

The table of contents

Browse by problem

Everything on the site is organized around the problems you actually hit, not around departments.

01

Scams & Tech

Suspicious texts and calls, scam-safe phones, and devices that are easier without being more vulnerable.

scams, phones, and passwords 02

Their House

Falls, stairs, bathroom, lighting, and emergency access: starting with the fixes that matter most.

start here 03

Downsizing & Stuff

Forty years of accumulated stuff, garage triage, and how to start before a crisis makes the decisions for you.

before it's a crisis 04

Care & Safety

Staying at home, recognizing when help is needed, and the hard conversations before they become emergencies.

hard conversations 05

Money, Documents & Planning

Finding the documents and accounts that matter: before a crisis, not after.

before you need it 06

Family & Siblings

Dividing the work fairly, meeting agendas that don't turn into grievances, and keeping Thanksgiving intact.

keep the peace 09

Browse every guide by topic

Scams, dementia, downsizing, money, and the life events that trigger them: the full index.

the full index

The fine print, in plain English

How this site works, and what it won't do

What we do

  • Answer "what do I do now?" on every page, with steps you can take the same day.
  • Cite government and manufacturer sources for anything safety-related, date every recommendation, and correct our mistakes in public. See the editorial policy.
  • Keep everything free, ad-free, and account-free today. The tools run in your browser, so they work even when our servers are having a bad day.

What we won't do

  • Pretend to be doctors, lawyers, or financial planners. When something needs a professional, we say so clearly. More about us.
  • Sell fear. You get honest risk and honest limits, not "10 SHOCKING SIGNS" and countdown timers.
  • Shame you or your parents. Everybody here is doing their best, including them.

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Things every adult child has said this month

Check what applies. Copy the family summary. Send it to your brother. It helps to be seen.

Things I've said as family tech support

Check what applies, then send it to someone who gets it

Before you trust us

Questions people ask before trusting a site like this

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Is this medical, legal, or financial advice?

No. It's practical, general guidance for common situations. When a decision could affect medical care, legal rights, or money, we tell you to involve the right professional and we say why. Read the editorial policy for the details.

Will the scam checker send my parent's message anywhere?

No. The analysis runs in your browser. We deliberately do not store, send, or log the text you paste, and we ask you not to paste passwords, codes, or account numbers in the first place.

My situation is complicated. Where do I start?

Start with the problem that is causing the most stress, not the biggest one. Check the Care & Safety section for the "questions to ask before a crisis" approach, and the Money & Planning section for documents. One page at a time is the whole method.